Building a Legacy

I am not a fan of the hyper-individualism that is marketed to us everyday. I have no intention for the name Legacy Psychotherapy to be used to sell you the idea that I can help you “be your uniquest self.”

Yet, I do believe that our actions have enormous significance. What we do speaks volumes about who we are. And I’m not saying this to try to pigeon-hole anyone either. When it comes to leaving a legacy, what we leave is in our actions.

Good therapy should reflect this. The proof is in the pudding. That is, good therapy should support us in learning to take actions that are of significance to us, or in alignment with our values. Additionally, it should support us in learning to not take action when that action would compromise our values.

Therapy is a self-awareness building exercise. Family therapy is a self-and-other awareness building exercise. When we develop awareness of our patterns, and motivations behind our behaviors we actually increase our ability to make choices about how we want to act. That is, with increased awareness, there is increased choice. It is my opinion that such choices offer us the opportunity to live a life full of meaning, self-empowerment and integrity.

In therapy, I first try to understand what motivates “problematic” behaviors in my clients, whether in adults, children or in families. We do this by bringing attention to and reflecting on our feelings, thoughts, and behaviors. Often there are feelings that have never been talked about, or we might struggle to verbalize. In learning how to talk about these feelings, we open the door to new possibilities for our actions.

However, there is no perfect. This process is one of continual trial-and-error. With children this takes patience and support from parents. With adults this takes learning how to accept the myriad of feelings that are part of our human experience. In each case, I am here to support you along the way. I am so confident that you or your child can make progress through this process, whether it is with me or another therapist. One of my mottos is that “showing up is half the battle.” If you have questions pertaining to the therapy process, please reach out to have a free consultation with me. I would be glad to offer my experience to you.